Reality check needed, please

[SilentSquirrel]

Hello members
I'd like a reality check regarding whether I should leave negative feedback in a member's profile.
Here is why
This morning I found a classified for a gun I wanted to buy.
I Emailed the seller & set up a phone call.
I asked a few questions, but more importantly felt that the seller was OK
The conversation was cordial
I made a very reasonable offer and promised immediate PayPal payment (including fees)
He agreed
Then, the moment I had finished sending the money in came a text telling me he had accepted a full price offer.

He, of course, refunded the $ and the fees.
But that's not the point

I consider his behavior highly unethical and would like to say so in feedback

Thoughts please!
Ed

 

[Sqwirl57]

An agreement is an agreement and he was bonded to it. If he thought he would get a better offer he should have said he would get back to you. It sounds like bad buisness and worthy of negative feedback to me.

 

[Jlowe]

I always reserve negative feedback for scammers, or those that are not honest about what they sold you. He would be in my category of "Ignoring" for life. He would definitely get the "ignore" button from me. You can't trust someone like that, no matter how good the deal may be.

 

[Airgun-hobbyist]

A man's word used to count for something. On here, it could start with an honest report of feedback on how they handled a mutually agreed upon verbal contract. Keep in mind, it is usually the seller's right to back out of an agreement, so long as it has not cost the buyer anything not agreed upon previously. Holding a dishonest or unethical individual to account, now that is a whole other subject.

 

[IMADMAN]

You could leave neutral feedback, since the only thing you lost was time. But then again it could get you a neutral or negative feedback in return. Jasmlowe probably has the best solution just ignore the member and move on. Great deals are always popping up. You just gotta be quick and have funds available.

 

[Vetmx]

I agree a man’s word used to count for something. But we are drifting far from that being the case nowadays. How do we fix it? We can start by holding people accountable. So………..

 

[beerthief]

I would not leave any feedback . HE could have just said he changed his mind .
AND it depends on the amount of money IE: $50 and ok , or he could have given you the chance to match the full price .

 

[OldSpook]

If you are telling the truth, you are telling the truth. If you aren't ...

A deal once made should not be broken, no matter how painful that might be.

I say write it down very simply and leave neutral feedback.

 

[standles]

Once the deal was agreed to it was done. Backing out for another offer is underhanded and screams volumes about ones character. I was taught in childhood your word is your bond and even if you make a bad deal you honor it. Negative feedback for sure and ignore for life.

 

[Fatmike]

Once you paid the deal was done in my opinion. Negative feedback is deserved just be accountable when he slings mud on your name.

 

[viperjoe]

While unethical no money was lost. Is it really worth it and what good is going to come out of it.
Wait a week and see if you still feel the need to.

 

[MongooseV8]

Reviewing the forum rules I dont see anything regarding backing out of a deal...

But, I can tell you from experience that I used to buy/sell a lot on another big forum. There was a strict rule that a deal was a deal, anything else demanded negative feedback. And one or two negative feedback nobody would do business with you, even face to face. Things were great! Pretty much everyone was great and the few bad apples were booted in short order. This particular forum laxed the rules a few years back and now the marketplace is full of craigslist flakes. They waste your time, money, fuel, etc.

So that being said I would do my best to keep this forum honest...

 

[Motorhead]

SAID .. OK to the OFFER ? ( As in I hear you )
Or said Ok to the deal being done as offered ?

Big difference ....

Folks seem to have selective hearing at times .. all of us do this !!

 

[elh0102]

I agree that the seller did not behave "gentlemanly". I guess there's not really a code of ethics that governs our behavior with each other regarding our posting communications. And considering that his actions didn't cost you anything, I'm not sure that posting negative feedback does any good. Sometimes these things lead to an argument in public, when it should be private. And if either party isn't truthful about something, things can get nasty. I would be inclined to tell the seller of my disappointment in his behavior, that an offer given in good faith, and accepted, should commit two honorable people to the deal.

 

[Gerry52]

I feel for your dilemma. All we really have on this forum to indicate who or what we are is our WORD & the responsibility & accountability that accompanies it. It SUCKS that the seller confirmed that you two had an agreement (if all factors related by you are correct) & that the seller's word meant NOTHING when a few more dollars were "waved in his/her face". Again, if all facts were related truthfully, that seller (you know who you are! ) made a real A-hole move & SHOULD be ashamed. IMHO you should just move on & relegate that person to the A-hole list, never to be dealt with again. Chances are that if you leave negative feedback they'll respond with lies anyway & end up hurting YOUR reputation. Get it in WRITING/ EMAIL, TEXT or RECORDING next time to, maybe, have some kind of recourse or indisputable basis for a "Negative Feedback"

 

[450BM]

He sold it to you, you paid for it and then he sold your gun to somebody else. In my mind, he bought it back from you at a non negotiated price and without you agreeing to sell it and then resold it. His answer to the other buyer should have been “I’m sorry, the gun is sold.” Period.

If you’re playing Blackjack and say to the dealer “Hit me”, if you gives you to large of a card can you tell him you don’t want it?

 

[OldSpook]

While unethical no money was lost. Is it really worth it and what good is going to come out of it.
Wait a week and see if you still feel the need to.

It is worth it to the next man. You would realize that if you were that next man.

We have abandoned our principles for the ease and comfort of no conflict. The end result is inevitably conflict far worse than we have avoided in the first place. When nobody is accountable, everybody pays a price.

 

[OldSpook]

SAID .. OK to the OFFER ? ( As in I hear you )
Or said Ok to the deal being done as offered ?

Big difference ....

Folks seem to have selective hearing at times .. all of us do this !!

Took the money and agreed to the price, see OPs post.

 

[Ezana4CE]

@SilentSquirrel
To answer your question, yes leave negative feedback if you brought your issue to the person’s attention before the gun was sold to another member and they refused to honor their initial agreement. I personally would avoid trying to contact or conduct business with the individual if this is truly how you have been treated. I don’t say this to be messy or catty, but in earnest.

 

[boscoebrea]

That ain't right,he needs to be put on the chump report. Unethical ,yes a negative for him so others can be forewarned and not four -played.
I just hope you got the story right....if so proceed.