I just found this thread while running into a situation with gauges myself.
First, some background, I've never had what you call really accurate gauges. In one sense, what is a "really accurate" gauge?...any gauge can be off, even a really good one. So, normally, if my gauges on my compressor, and guns,(many guns) are in relative agreement, then I feel safe.
I have a used Sekhemt gauge that consistently reads well off any other gauge I've had, including many, many pcp airguns. It is on the order of 16 bar off as near as I can tell. It's one of the newer Sekhmet gauges, but it doesn't match anything I've had. UNTIL, I got a Dream Tac with Wika gauges, and I discovered, the Sekhmet reads exactly with both Wika gauges. This got me thinking and I ordered one of Huma's digital reg testing gauges, and sure enough, the Sekhmet, Wika and Huma all read the same. Guess I was wrong about the Sekhment.
Now let's consider gauge error. When scuba tanks or breathing air cyls are filled, they allow a 10% overfill for heat. So on a 4500psi CF tank that's 450psi overfill. A gauge error like mine of something on the order of 16 bar is less than 250 psi and on a 230 bar gun like the DreamTac that would be a roughly 10% overfill.
Cylinders, of any material, be it aluminum or carbon fiber are overbuilt to the max. I can't remember aluminum but CF cyls are burst rated at north of 17,000 psi for scba, IIRC. That's better than a 3:1 safety factor. Also remember that a smaller diameter will hold a higher pressure.. Let's face it NO manufacturer wants to deal with a bottle explosion situation. Kinda hurts business to the extreme. That's not to say we shouldn't pay attention, it just means we should be aware. Did you know in the US any cyl 2" and under in diameter doesn't need to be retested....ever. That's because the likelyhood of an explosion is quite small. I saw the numbers once and it was something like many hundreds of thousands of fill/drain cycles to reach a stress fracture at the relatively low force loading. That is the reason you don't see 4500 psi aluminum cyls, it is to keep the failure rate so far out that it is, fall all intents and purposes, nearly impossible.
Now, for common sense. I almost never fill my guns to max. I don't need to, I have a ready air compressor wherever I shoot, so a few extra shots before a fill isn't of any concern to me. If the situation arises that I need max shot count, I'll fill to max. I think the only time I've ever filled guns to max was to see if the reg acted any different with more pressure in the cyl.
So a combination of being aware of the situation, not going crazy filling, and keeping an eye on gauges, you should be perfectly safe.